Re: Hates to nurse
Definitely don't pump exclusively unless you have to! If your husband is giving you grief, I suggest that you hand him the pump and tell him to spend 20 minutes chained to it every 2-3 hours throughout the day and night for the next year or so, and see if that's something he would want to do himself. I suspect that it isn't! Maybe if he realizes that, he'll be less inclined to suggest it to you. I would also be absolutely forthright about what you need from him: support. Give him a script, for example "If I come crying to you, and saying I can't do it, I need you to not suggest the pump. I need you to hold me and tell me how awesome I am for continuing to nurse and I need you to tell me I am a wonderful mom." Sometimes men get stuck in problem-solving mode when we need them to be in support mode!
Is baby completely refusing to nurse? I'd kind of like to see you try to put the bottles away for a few days, and just nurse and watch diaper output. I know I'm suggesting a super-difficult experience for you and your baby, but it might be worth it to break the bottle habit.
ETA: this is a really good link on nursing strikes, with techniques for beating them: http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/child/back-to-breast/
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