I have posted quite a bit and I apologize for another post, but I am at my wits end with breast feeding. My son is 7 weeks old and breast feeding has been ok, no real problems until recently. He latched on straight after birth and has breast fed beautifully until now.
I returned to work today and pumped etc. when I got home and fed him he latched on right away. However, tonight and many other times he will scream when I try to breast feed him. I have posted about this before and I just don't know why or what to do. I don't know if it is because I am trying to help him latch on by holding his head and guiding the nipple into his mouth. I have had to do this since day one as he rarely will latch by himself, should I stop holding his head and shoving my nipple in his mouth? . If he does latch on his own it is a shallow latch and he will only take 3-4 sucks and unlatch.
Also I feel as if he does not like to comfort nurse. This really breaks my heart and I am at a loss for what to do about it. He will act sleepy or fuss and I always offer him the breast. Many times he will arch his back and cry and kick his little legs. He will take a couple of gulps and then scream even louder, so I offer him a binky and he will stop crying or fall asleep. This is usually after he has already nursed, I don't ever give him his binky unless he has nursed
off both sides and I have tried to offer the breast again.
I also feel clueless about nursing while lying down. It would be much easier just to grab him and lay him in bed with us and feed him like that, however I have tried and he cannot latch on by himself when we regularly breast feed much less laying down. Should I wait until he is older? Will he ever latch on his own? I should mention that I do have an over active letdown. Also I have a 4 year old so it's quite impossible to hold the baby all of the time since I work full time and need to keep my preschooler entertained and calm a fussy baby. O I am so frustrated and feel like such a failure as a mother, I'm ready to give up. Please help!