Our daughter is currently nine days old and refuses to swallow, or stay away, when she is breast feeding, and we don't know what to do!
Our little one was born at 7lb's 9oz's and was latching successfully by the first day. Throughout her entire first week she had no troubles latching and even though occasionally she would doze off when feeding we thought things were going great.
Little did we know, at our one week appointment we would be told that she was 10% under her original weight and we "needed to feed her more". See that she has been feeding for 45 minutes to an hour straight every other hour this almost seems like an impossibility unless we just let her feed 24/7 and do nothing else.
Upon closer observation we've found that she has a bad habit of pacifying herself instead of actually feeding for about 90% of the time. She will suck, and, suck, and suck but never actually swallow. Then all of the sudden there will be small bouts of sucking and swallowing that have no real rhythm or reason in regards to her timing within the feedings.
To add to this frustration, our little one can't stay awake! This is all the time, while feeding, while not feeding, while burping, she just doesn't want to wake up (minus about four three - four hours from 1am till about 4-5am.) The problem with her sleeping so much as that it is very hard to consistently get to to suck, better yet swallow when feeding. We have tried all of the suggestions including...undressing her to the diaper, rubbing her side, palms or feet, massaging her head gently, wiping a wet wash cloth across her feet, hands or head, changing her diaper before feeding, switching positions (though football seems to work the best of all), talking to her, etc. We have also tried switching her when she falls asleep, but typically we then need to spend a half an hour trying to wake her up to feed on the other side for twenty seconds before she falls asleep again. She is still getting wet or dirty diapers 6-10 times a day, but doesn't seem to be gaining back any weight.
The only thing we haven't yet tried is supplementing. Our pediatrician told us that we didn't need to unless when we went back in she hadn't made it back up to her original weight. My wife is very hesitant to bottle feed in fear that she won't want to go back to breast feeding. We used a pacifier sparingly during the night and during diaper changes starting on about the third day (per a nurses suggestion at our hospital), but this is also something my wife is questioning. She is wondering if perhaps the pacifier use during those times can be attributed to her pacifying while feeding.
As stated before, it is literally taking an hour to an hour and fifteen minutes to get her seemingly full each feeding because of these problems, she still isn't gaining weight, and she is almost always showing signed of hunger.
To add more details, she wasn't born jaundice, she wasn't born four days after her due date, she hasn't been diagnosed with anything and was said to be a "healthy baby" other than the weight loss during out last appointment. She rarely wakes herself to feed though, but she starts to show signs of hunger during her sleep every hour or so. It is really hot in our house - we don't have any air conditioning so it is on average about 85 - 88 degrees in our house which might be adding to her sleepiness, though we try to keep about 5 fans circulating the air the best we can.
Any suggestions that you might have that could help would be greatly appreciated! It is getting somewhat disheartening doing all of this work with little success so far, so we're looking for something else to try!
Thanks in advance for the help!