Sorry this is so long, I just wanted to put as much background as I could if that helps.
I'm a second time mother, but this is my first baby breastfed more than a few weeks. That said, I've read up on just about everything I could. But I can't really find any answers for this. My 10 week old boy was breastfeeding pretty well. He is pretty fat. I weighed him with me on our scale and it seems that he is about 16 lbs, though I have to take him to his 2 month appointment this week (missed the last one). At around 7 weeks though, he started to latch and unlatch every few seconds. I noticed I have had overactive letdown, with some spraying, but only in one breast (not sure if it counts as overactive letdown without spraying?) and I noticed this after his 6 week growth spurt. Oh when I started side lying with him around this period of frequent waking, he would only take a little and fall asleep. When he started having green poops, I switched to block feeding to correct both issues and this went away. But he seemed to get even fussier and I was not sure if I had diminished my milk supply. Oh yeah, around this time of introducing side lying sleeping, he began to become very gassy as well, lots of passing gas but I attributed this to me not burping him when we sleep. Also during this time, we went on a trip out of town and we could not even get back out of town because he hates his car seat and wanted to feed for 3 hours, all the while latching and unlatching as we sat on the highway with both me and my husband frustrated and confused.
During weeks 7-9 he constantly constantly nursed and didn't sleep and suddenly became unputdownable. I figured he was comfort nursing because he would latch, unlatch, get mad about milk coming and started to wake up to nurse every hour and would wake up quickly from naps. I even got an oversupply and engorged from all the comfort nursing. Previously to this, he was sleeping for about 2 hours at a time, even with an occasional 3 hour nap and one 3 hour stretch at night (this happened for only one glorious week at about 6 weeks before the growth spurt). I have since figured out that at some point, probably during or after the previously mentioned trip, he became chronically overtired as I was totally missing his cues and he is the sort that will never stop looking around, being alert and is happy until he's screaming.
Now that I've figured out that he was overtired I've been weaning him off comfort nursing so much by trading it for rocking when he no longer eats without crying anymore (which was the way I used to get him to sleep). He eventually stopped wanting to suck so much and allowed me to rock him. He's starting to sleep more at night with about waking every 1.5 to 2 hours and I have even been able to put him down in his cosleeper/bassinet for one nap and am currently praying he'll finish this current one. So things are getting better and at night he nurses (while sleepy) pretty well, like normal.
But the problem is this - when he is fully awake, he STILL nurses for a few seconds, pulls off, takes a few breaths or looks around, relatches, rinse and repeat. Sometimes he'll even nurse for a few minutes but then he'll pull off and milk will be dripping everywhere (not spraying, just dripping very quickly). Sometimes after a few minutes of this I get frustrated and put him down to play or in his swing but in about 5-10 minutes he is screaming for food again and then the same cycle starts. This continues on until he changes to crying in between latches and then I know he's tired and I rock him to sleep.
Also, sometimes he falls asleep but wakes up soon after, hungry. And he is not draining the breast at all during the day, though this may have something to do with my oversupply. What is going on here? I am so frustrated that I am beginning to hate nursing and he refuses pacificers, doesn't really drink from the bottle (he sometimes drinks a little, most times he won't though I don't get the chance to pump much so I haven't offered it much lately) and I feel like if I give up, he will starve. I was wondering if it could be reflux or thrush but it doesn't seem like we match those symptoms. I read about distractible babies but he seems too young for this and is it really this bad when they are?
I know this is a lot of info but I've spent weeks researching this and I have no definitive answers and I don't know if something is wrong that I'm not seeing. I've got no confidence that his ped will either since these are the people who told me when he was a few days old to start supplementing and not letting him feed more often than every 2 hours because my breasts needed time to drain and babies get all of their nourishment within 15 min and to not let him nurse longer than that. Yes, I know.
Thank you so much for any guidance. I used to love breastfeeding and look forward to it but now I'm just looking for any way to get out of it.