Re: wanting to reduce or eliminate toddler night nursing
A lot of moms here have used the Gordon method with success. I used it, but I didn't follow his timeline. It took us about a month maybe a month and a half (I think I stayed on step two for most of that time, if I remember correctly). My daughter was a bit older and verbal enough that I could communicate with her about what was going on, expectations, when she could nurse again etc, so it's possible that helped in our situation. But it's definitely consistency that's important (as it is any time you are setting a limit for your toddler). If you sometimes say no and then give in they'll fight every time in the hopes that this is one of the times you give in. You definitely have to make the decision whether it's worth the short term battle to get the long term pay off and sometimes the answer is just no. If your kiddo is teething (this is a HUGE one- my daughter had all her molars by the time we night weaned, which definitely made it easier), hitting a milestone or major developmental leap, not accepting or understanding what's going on, it may be easier to wait a few months and try again when circumstances are better. Illness, major life changes, vacations, all of that can throw her off her game and cause her to regress. I was fortunately able to stay pretty consistent with my daughter, the only time I gave in and nursed her at night was a few nights when she was sick.
I'll just add, and I'm sure you've probably read this elsewhere, weaning at night doesn't always mean your lo will start sleeping through the night. It certainly didn't in our case.
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