Re: distraught and discouraged
I am so sorry, mama! How traumatic for you and for baby.
Please don't let the dentist's uninformed comments get to you. Night-nursing is not implicated in dental decay because the sugars in breastmilk aren't the ones that are thought to promote decay, and because the mechanics of nursing mean that milk cannot pool in the mouth the way it can with a bottle- and nighttime bottles are implicated in dental decay.
A lot of kids nurse at night and do not end up with cavities. When a baby does have decay, the root cause often seems to be some sort of defect in his/her enamel. Babies with that sort of issue will probably get decay even if they don't nurse at night- think of all those hours during the day when their teeth are getting exposed to various sugars and starches- even things as innocuous as a handful of crackers or some fruit can contribute.
Basically, I am sorry that the dentist made you feel so bad when this probably isn't the fault of nursing at night.
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