Re: Help! Start school next week with 4 mo old!
My DH was not the primary caregiver, but had to watch LO many times during naps or bedtime when I went back to work, and we had a nanny watching her and helping her sleep, as well. For both of them, we found success trying to replicate as close as possible the nursing-to-sleep experience that she had with me. During my maternity leave, I'd usually nurse her on the nursing pillow, and she'd fall asleep like that and I'd let her nap on the pillow on my lap while I watched TV or (sometimes) fell asleep sitting up! So DH or nanny usually gave her a bottle right before her nap or bedtime, and often she fell asleep during the bottle. Then they'd hold her on a pillow while watching TV during her nap (rocking her to sleep if she didn't fall asleep right away). As she got a little older, if DH held her in his lap on the bed, he could sometimes put her down in the bed once she was asleep -- then she got better at being placed in the crib. If you don't have success with the bottle, perhaps still having the milk (via cup or other method) right before naps will help.
Mom to my sweet little "Pooper," born 10/12/11, and "Baby Brother," born 6/23/2014, and married to heavy metal husband. Working more than full-time, making healthy vegetarian meals for family, and trying to keep up with exercise routine.