I haven't posted for awhile. Things have been going well.
I have recently decided that I really want to become a doula, so I've started on the certification requirements. In November I will be at a training workshop an hour from home, which goes from 9:00 AM to 5:30 PM for 4 days in a row. I'm a full-time SAHM, so we don't have daycare or anything, but it's over a weekend (Friday to Monday), and my husband is willing to take the two workdays off and watch the kids for the 4 days.
I'm not worried about the 4-year-old at all. But baby will be 16 months old at that point, and so far we haven't had too much luck with her being happy with Daddy, even for a few hours. It's odd - it seems to depend on a lot of things, but sometimes she'll be fine if I go out for 3 hours and she'll go to sleep for bedtime with him carrying her in the Ergo, but sometimes she'll fuss and cry almost the whole time I'm gone (up to about an hour and 10 minutes apparently). That breaks my heart - she is just so attached to ME (which is an obvious consequence of how I have mothered her thus far, I think). But I really do want to do this, so I'm just looking for tips on how to kind of prepare her for it. I don't want it to be a big trauma for her if I can avoid that.
It is an hour from our place, but a family member lives 5 minutes from the workshop and would let hubby and kids have her place as a home base for those 4 days. She can come to me any time really, as they're obviously very baby-friendly! But there are 3 actual breaks that my husband would probably bring her to me to nurse during. The lunch break is even an hour long, so I could get a bit of time with her. My husband wonders though if it would be better for them just to stay home (I would then have to hand-express during breaks because I'm prone to plugged ducts, but I'm not worried about the logistics of that). He thinks perhaps it would be less traumatic for her that way because she would be in familiar surroundings plus she wouldn't be taken away from me 4 times every day. Thoughts? She has never gone that long without nursing, but she eats lots of food and drinks water and almond milk, and I know she wouldn't be *hungry,* she would just miss her neenee. I don't know if she'd take or want a bottle of breastmilk - haven't tried since she was 6 weeks old.
And THEN, after the workshop, with any luck there will be births to attend! At random unexpected times! Which may be very long!
I know there are lots of similar threads about this kind of thing, but to be honest I never paid much attention because I thought I'd just stay home with her until she was older anyway. But I'm realizing how important this doula thing is to me, so I do want to get started on it. I'm not going to want a ton of clients, I just want to do it because I love it, but I do want it to be very part-time, perhaps one client at a time. It's just the length and unexpectedness of births that might be hard for baby I guess. Thoughts and ideas?
Thanks so much for reading my long post!