Just checking in for some feedback about my technique to make it through what appears to be the most intense height of distraction yet for my LO. He will be 10 months old this weekend. Breastfeeding has become a workout! I seriously have to wrangle him, like he's a bucking bronco, or a gymnastics champion, back to the breast. Once he gets there, he nurses ravenously. Up until that point he wrestles, fights me and even screams. He can keep that suck going for about 5 minutes and then he's off again, and I just keep pulling him back. All very embarrassing when we try this in public. (My friends are probably thinking "he doesn't want to nurse, quit forcing him!") And then there's the milk spray when he suddenly pulls off. Lots of fun in public. The best sessions we have are on walks after we reunite from my work day, in the ergo carrier. He gets singularly focused and nurses like a champ. At bedtime he is pretty good side lying, IF and only IF he is tired, but if I'm trying to work him down he twists and turns and it's just sooooo annoying. He's also good int he early morning feeds. Most dream feeds are okay but if he wakes up next thing I know he is sitting up looking at me smiling (super cute but not at 3 am).
This morning before work we did manage to get the wake up feeding in without distraction. But the one before I left was really difficult. I think I clocked 18 minutes, which sounds good, but so much of it was putting him back on.
Here is what I am doing to minimize distraction:
Bringing along a toy: his "BF Bunny" (Best friend or breast feeding Bunny). He ends up tossing this off me and it seems to cause more trouble lately.
Dimmer room: our bedroom, which has less natural light. The trouble is no room in the house is boring to him. Everything is an adventure!
Being patient: not freaking out, using a very calm voice and lots of snuggles, caressing and reinforcing the "milk" sign. I will usually say "No, it's time for milk".
I can't always nurse in the carrier, obviously. I do believe that when I'm with friends I will have to leave the room. And I can't even imagine restaurants.
This is frustrating because I love breastfeeding, I love our BFing relationship, and having to leave the room or hide makes this take more time and I want to seamlessly blend breastfeeding into our regular routine. Ha, maybe I am asking too much.
We are going to be on a plane for 4.5 hours in a month. I am shuddering to think how that is going to work! I'm thinking ergo there too?
Please tell me your tips in case I haven’t tried them. And long term breastfeeding mamas, please help assure me this is only a phase! My goal is definitely at least 2 years, even with working full time outside the home. I know at some point he will calm down but that time can’t come soon enough!