Re: thoughts/questions/guidance at 1-year mark
This sort of thing is a problem for a lot of couples. When presented with a problem, men tend to default to "problem-solving" mode, whereas women default to "emotional support" mode. It's frustrating for both partners- the woman wants emotional support, not a how-to manual, and the man gets frustrated because he can't understand why the woman won't just implement the solution he has proposed. If she didn't want his help, why did she ask in the first place?
Originally Posted by @llli*pandora
When I come to my DH with an issue, I have found it helpful to be explicit about what I need. If I need a problem-solving approach, I say something like "I need help figuring out how to arrange this". If I simply need his emotional support, I make that clear: "I need you to give me a hug and tell me that everything is going to be fine and that I'm doing really well."
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"