Re: Weaning but won't drink cow's milk and picky eater
It is fine to allow a child to self-wean. Ideal, in many respects! But if you want to keep the nursing relationship going, you can continue to offer. No guarantees, of course. Your LO really may have outgrown her need to nurse.
I would discuss your daughter's diet with your pediatrician. They can probably give you exact guidance on how much "dairy" a 3 year-old needs. Guidelines vary by age and by doctor. If your LO won't drink cow's milk, you can get dairy into her in other ways. Cheese and yogurt are often more popular than cow's milk.
Getting a kid to try new things is tough. It's normal and self-protective for toddlers to be picky. If they weren't, if they were as indiscriminate about what they put in their mouths as a baby is, they would likely poison themselves! You cannot MAKE your kid eat. All you can do is to continue to put a variety of healthy choices in front of her, and wait for her to take advantage of them. Making your kid's food cute can help- serve it in cute cups or in little nibble-sized containers (e.g. an ice cube tray). Make a caterpillar out of vegetables, with olives or blueberries for eyes. Make a cottage cheese rabbit with carrot sticks for ears, raisins for eyes, and pineapple teeth. And serve veggies with dips, since kids love to dip! My kids will eat large amounts of veggies when they are served with (ew ew ew!) ranch dressing.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"