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    Question I need some help and support

    My daughter is currently 4 weeks old, today on the dot. I want to breastfeed her so bad for as long as I can, i always failed at breastfeeding, my nipples are super sensitive all the time, so breastfeeding was extremely painful and caused such high anxiety that after 2-3 weeks i gave up with both my previous daughters. Although my hubby was a great supporter of me and whatever choice i made, i have no one else. My mother-in-law doesnt care to see us at all, her granddaugher is 4 weeks old and shes never met her...not from my lack of effort to encourage her to stop byt hospital, and even took my daughter out 8 days old to July 4th parade hoping to see grandma, turns out she left the state for over a week and hasnt made a single effort to see us since she got home. My family lives 12hrs away and although my mom keeps telling me to be strong and hang in there, she wasnt raised around breastfeeding (neither was I) but to her its weird and she would just as soon bottle feed so we dont discuss the difficulties of it cause I know her fall back was just go with formula, no stress that way.

    My problem is im in so MUCH pain!! My nipples are so sore i cry when she latches on, her latch on my right breast looks good, its the least painful nipple, but both nipples hurt like hell latching on, during a feeding and between feedings...someone suggest i might have thrush but i dont see the white spots in lil angels mouth and the nipple description isnt helpful really.

    I cross cradle hold on my right breast, and usually football hold on the left, occassionally i can cross cradle on left too but its not often. I dunno what to do, ive tried moist heating pads, ice tried cold packs, ive tried pumping, ive tried alternating feeds on only 1 breast at a time, i use lanolin after every feed religiously

    I dont want to quit again, i want to get past this, but i dont know where to get help, i tried looking up lactation consultants in my town but found 0 = looked up LLL support groups, the 2 links close to my area..led to error 404 website not found

    Any tips or help would be so appreciated - i see my daughters pediatrician in 5 days but i cant wait that long for answers

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    Default Re: I need some help and support

    Your hospital might have a lactation consultant. Have you asked them, or your dr's ped? They might be able to point you in the right direction.

    As for the nipples, I'm sure there'll be people with better advice in to post soon, but my experience has been similar. My nipples have had sores, blisters, a white stripe at the tip when he latches, etc. I've had pain with every latch. But it turns out my son has an upper lip tie, which is fixable. Have you looked into tongue or lip tie? Has your daughter been checked for either?

    Breastfeeding is not supposed to hurt if baby is latched right. So, you should really have it evaluated by a professional if you can.

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    Default Re: I need some help and support

    Do you think you could have Reynaud's? Scroll down to the part about reynaud's & vasospasms: http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/moth...ple-blanching/
    Tracie

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    Lilah 10/08 nursed 25 months
    Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months

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    Default Re: I need some help and support

    If you pm me where you live (town, zip code, your area code, surrounding towns, any regional area name that where you live goes by etc) I will try to find what is going on with the local LLL. Ditto IBCLCs, but look, you may have to travel to see one. Is that something you would be willing or able to do?

    LLL can offer you good support, but I strongly suggest seeing an IBCLC. Nursing should not hurt like this. There may be an issue of anatomy with your baby (tongue or lip tie.) (you could discuss this with your pediatrician, but not all doctors understand how tt can cause breastfeeding issues and waht to do about it) there may be thrush, (and you are right, it is VERY hard to diagnose and self diagnoses is tricky at best.)
    Not being able to nurse your baby is a medical issue. I strongly suggest to keep trying to get help.

    it really is difficult to have a baby without support from our families. I know exactly how that is and it is especially hurtful when even interest is not shown. This is why we are here-to offer the support for BREASTFEEDING that so many moms can or do not get from their friends or families.

    I don’t know what you have tried for improving latch, but here are my favorite links on latch and positioning issues.

    Tips with pictures on latch and different positioning ideas (includes side lying) http://www.llli.org/faq/positioning.html

    Laid back position http://www.llli.org/docs/00000000000...astfeeding.pdf

    Laid back video http://www.biologicalnurturing.com/video/bn3clip.html

    Here are two simple pictorials, latch and tongue tie. On the one on latch, Notice that the mother is in a “slightly” laid back position, looks like on a couch? This is a very “adjustable” position, play around to find how you and your baby are most comfortable. http://cwgenna.com/quickhelp.html

    latch and 'Breast sandwich' article http://www.llli.org/llleaderweb/lv/lvfebmar04p3.html (probably only needed if baby cannot latch or latch is hurting mom)

    Good general info:
    What is normal in the early weeks with a breastfed baby http://kellymom.com/bf/normal/newborn-nursing/

    Feeding cues: http://www.llli.org/docs/00000000000...eding_cues.pdf

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