Re: 7 week old fighting at the breast, short feedings, pain
The hormone crash is a very, very powerful experience. There's this amazing postpartum high- you feel great, triumphant, happy, beautiful- and then a few weeks later there's a crash. I remember suddenly feeling exhausted, sad, fat, dumpy- and the fact that I had grown a cup size didn't help at all! Be patient with your breasts. They should definitely deflate a little as you get over the overproduction phase, and they may even return to their original size. Mine ultimately did, which was a huge surprise to me! But I put on one of my old bras, which I had been saving in what felt like a remote hope of going back to a DD instead of a DDD, and lo and behold, it fit!!!
If the postpartum crash feels excessive to you, please discuss that with your doctor or midwife. Postpartum depression is real, and there are things you can do about it.
I do think that "going with the flow" is, to a certain extent, the best coping technique you can possibly have as a mom. Not just with a young baby, but also with an older baby, a toddler, an older child... So much of what they do is "senseless" or at least changing so fast that there's no real pattern.
Please be assured that IT DOES GET BETTER! I was in pain and tears with every nursing session with my first baby. I hit the 6 week point at which "everything gets better" (supposedly), and I still hated nursing! It still hurt terribly (due to deep cracks) and I felt like a freak for not being able to master something so simple and natural. But it did get better. It took way longer for me than it does for most moms (4.5 months, if you can believe it- the cracks were that deep), but I am still very glad that I hung in there, accepted the status quo, and went with the flow.
We'll be here for you, mama! You're not going to be alone in this journey.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"