Re: Stopping BFing.
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When a mom stops nursing, she should wean slowly. That way she's much less likely to experience engorgement, plugged ducts, or mastitis. Her supply will disappear slowly, and when her baby is completely weaned, she should have little or no milk left to make her uncomfortable. When a mom pursues "mother-led" weaning, she should drop a single feeding, wait a few days for her supply to adjust downwards, and then drop another feeding. Eventually, all the feedings will be gone and baby will be weaned.
The whole "breastfed until one" thing is often interpreted as meaning that a mom should be done by a year. What it actually means is that weaning should not start until a year. If you're already down to just 2-4 feedings per day, you're well on your way to weaning. How much formula is your baby taking at this point?
A year-old baby may or may not be ready to transition from breast to cup. I know the advice is often very firm about how you MUST break the bottle habit by a year- but if you're not planning to nurse, you may need to continue to bottle-feed as your baby figures out the mechanics of drinking from a cup. Don't worry about it- if she still has a bottle at 18 months, she will not be the only one.
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