Re: Help: Pregnant, Low Supply, Avid Nurser
Hi mama! Welcome to the forum. This all sounds pretty typical of a pregnancy. I know it's maybe not great news to you, but there is not a way to bring your supply up during pregnancy, since the drop is due to hormonal changes. It is possible that your son will continue 'dry nursing' through your pregnancy and you can tandem nurse once your milk comes in after you have the baby. Lots of moms do this. It's also possible your son will self-wean at some point, now that your supply has dried up totally. And it's also an option for you to gently encourage weaning if that's what you want to do.
As for what you're getting out of it- there is still the emotional connection and the 'magic' aspect of offering to nurse when he's hurt or wakes at night or whatever. And it can help with the transition from only child to big brother, for sure. It all comes down to what you (and your son, to a degree) want to do.
It sounds to me like you don't want to wean and that's totally fine. What you can do is start setting boundaries and getting him used to the idea that nursing is a cooperative activity that you both have a say in. This is important for any toddler nursing, but particularly if you're going to tandem nurse. If nursing is uncomfortable or inconvenient for you at the moment, he can wait. I tried to avoid ever saying no you can't nurse. Instead I'd say things like, "yes, you can nurse after I'm done making dinner/when we get home/whatever." Mainly I did that to avoid power struggles and meltdowns, but it worked pretty well for us. And for me, nursing during pregnancy was sometimes painful or uncomfortable, so I'd tell her she could nurse for a set amount of time and then no more (I used 3 repetitions of twinkle twinkle little star...did this one at bedtime a lot). Anyway, my point being you have time to find what works for you guys and get him used to the idea before the baby comes along.
I'd bet the weight plateau has more to do with being a busy toddler than anything else, but definitely keep an eye on his solids intake and make sure he's getting a well-rounded diet, since you can't rely on breast milk to make up for deficiencies any longer. In the grand scheme of things, there is relatively little energy spent on a toddler nursing (compared to his other daily activities) so I wouldn't worry about that one little bit.
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