Re: Please help me wean her!!!
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Ideally, weaning happens naturally, slowly, and with love. LLL advises against "aversion" methods (like putting something bad-tasting on the breast, "giving the baby the Gussy", etc.), because they can be rather traumatic for the baby.
Slow weaning is recommended, particularly for mothers who are nursing frequently, because weaning too fast sets a mom up for increased likelihood of problems like engorgement, plugged ducts, and mastitis. So when a mom pursues "mother-led" weaning, she should aim to drop a single nursing session, wait a day or two, and then drop another session, etc. That way her body gets the message that demand is going down, but because milk removal continues, there's less likelihood of the problems mentioned above.
Is there a feeding (or block of feedings) that you most want to get rid of right now? Perhaps the nighttime feedings? Often when a mom is able to get a decent amount of sleep, daytime nursing becomes tolerable again.
Here are some things that can help you further the weaning process:
- Avoid your customary nursing spots. Often a baby is cued to nurse by seeing mom sit down in "the nursing chair".
- Stay out and about. Toddlers tend to nurse less often when they have new and different things to look at and play with. Take your LO to the park, to the grocery store, to the big box store, the mall, etc.
- Set and communicate reasonable limits. Most 2 year olds can understand things like "We will nurse when we get home" or "You can nurse, but only until mommy counts to 10" or "We will nurse again in the morning, when the sun comes up." If limits lead to screaming and tantrums, gently continue to enforce the limit while giving the baby alternate forms of comfort- hugs, back rubs, lullabies, etc.
- Enlist alternate caregivers. I know your husband can't take over bedtime, but maybe grandma can? A babysitter, a family member- they can also care for your LO during the day, at junctures when you don't want to nurse.
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