Okay, My LO is 3.5 actual (2 months adjusted).
Our breastfeeding relationship has been a tough one, and maybe I am just not use to *doing* something for once.
He was preemie and was fed BM through NG tube while we worked on breastfeeding. But we had to use nipple shields. He was fully fed from the breast at 2 weeks old (~35 weeks) with nipple shields. We had to use the shields until 5 weeks ago, or until he was 10 weeks (4 weeks adjusted).
I had to go back to work just a week and a half after we got off the shields. Because he was learning to breastfeed without the shields, we didn’t even try bottles until 3 days before I had to go to work. We went through a series of bottles and ended up with breast aversion the first weekend (we used the shields to get him back to the breast, it worked but scary and stressful) and finally ended up with a bottle that he will take that doesn’t cause confusion. He only gets the Medela Calma now, because it is the only nipple that didn’t pour into his mouth, he HAD to suck to get it out. The problem is, he doesn’t like it much. I guess he reverse cycles, because he will only take 1-1.5 ounces from the bottle at a time, taking maybe 5-6 ounces in the 10 hours I am gone per day. He nurses like mad when I get home and we cosleep and he nurses several times at night, but not very long during the night.
I just don’t feel happy with the situation. I think he should drink more during the day, he isn’t sleeping well and I think it is because he is not full. I don’t want faster flow bottle though because we have already had some breast refusal after bottle before.
We tried cup feeding, it didn’t work out too well he kept trying to move his head toward the cup and latch on. He may be too old for being cup fed like that.
I would like to try something alternative. I thought maybe a straw-sippy might work, because he would have to suck to get the liquid, but when he did suck, he would get enough flow to satisfy him. On the other hand, a lot comes out with a straw sippy, would it be too much for him at his age? A lot of sippys say 4mo+, and at 3.5mo he is close, but he is really developmentally behind that a bit.
Am I just being crazy wanting to change something that seems to be working “okay”? I just don’t feel like what we are doing now is working that well, like we are just getting by? Will straws mess up my breastfeeding relationship?
I want to move away from the bottle as soon as possible anyway, the nipples say to replace them at 3 months of use and I wasn’t going to buy new ones by that point I would like to be using a cup of some kind.
Or am I just crazy and can't be happy not changing something?