Looking for any advice or support. Thank you in advance and I apologize for how long this is going to be...
I had my DS about two years ago. I wanted to bf him, but I thought it would just come easily and I didn't understand supply and demand. We gave a few nighttime bottles in the first week and my supply tanked and we eventually had to ff. I felt terrible.
I just had my DD 3.5 weeks ago and I thought I was all ready to bf. Unfortunately DD didn't care about my preparedness. I was induced 10 days early because she was too small and they believed she was stressed. She was 5lbs 6oz and had extremely low blood sugar, so I would bf and then supplement with formula (in a bottle). She left the hospital above her birth weight. Since we have been home, she has been an extremely sleepy eater. I have tried tickling, taking off all her clothes, using a cold washcloth, everything. I will hand her to DH and he will wake her fully, and then the second I take her she's asleep again.
After about a week of the sleepy eater, I went to see an LC and DD had lost weight. We did a feeding test and DD transferred less than .5oz in 45 minutes. LC asked me to bf DD every 2 hours for 15 min on each side and then supplement with bm or formula (offer about 1oz) and then pump for 10-15 minutes (I have a Medela Freestyle). LC only wants 15 min on each side because she said since DD is so little, she will start burning more calories than she's gaining after working at it for longer than that. She has never once "popped off" or stopped bfing when nursing...never satisfied
We did this for about a week and she didn't gain very much. We went back to the LC and she only transferred .3oz in a half hour at that visit! The LC could not believe how sleepy DD is, she said she's the sleepiest baby she's ever seen. So she asked me to move to every 2.5 hours to see if she could get the extra sleep she needed and then maybe be more awake. DD has been a little more awake, but I think it might be because she's a little older now.
I have been taking fenugreek and blessed thistle and I have been eating oatmeal and drinking lots of Mother's Milk Tea and gatorade and water to keep my supply going. I was offered Reglan but I don't feel comfortable with some of the possible side effects. Plus, I feel like the milk is there, she's just too sleepy and not able to get it.
I went to the LC yesterday and DD had only gained 2oz in one whole week. So LC had me try a nipple shield because it looked like LO was slipping off my nipple and not getting a good enough latch at all times. During that session, she transferred 1.5oz in 45 minutes using the nipple shield, so that was good to hear. However, I'm still having to supplement after we bf for 30 minutes and I'm supplementing even more now, 1.5 to 2oz I even had the LC look for tongue or lip ties, and she said everything looked good.
I'm at the point where I want to quit but I don't at the same time. I just want to know that there is success at the end of this. By the time I bf, supplement, pump and wash everything, I barely have 30minutes to do something else before I have to start the process again. This is making me so sad, because I have missed out on making fun summer memories with my 2 year old since I can't really go anywhere for an extended period of time. I send DH out to have fun with DS and I sit at home and go round and round. The house is a mess, I have no sleep, I'm tired and feeling low. I just wanted this to work out so badly. My DH tries his best to be there for me, but he doesn't like seeing me like this so he tends to remind me that we used formula with DS and he has turned out great (except for a few respiratory sicknesses that I feel guilty about and think I caused by ff)...so whenever I vent about the situation, DH just tells me to start using formula. Ugh
Does anyone have anything I haven't tried? Any stories of success? Anyone able to come back from doing the bf-supplement-pump routine and go to straight bf? How long? If I knew for sure this would work, I would keep at it...but I don't, so I don't want to waste all this time...I might as well pump and cut out the bf all together, but I don't want to if I'm so close I just don't know when to "call it", as I tell DH. I have to go back to work at 6 weeks, so I figure I need to decide by then...I just don't want to miss out on all these things for nothing
I'm desperate and depressed by this whole situation It's my last child and I so wanted to get it right Please, can anyone help me?