Re: Attempting to wean my 3 year old...
with Mammi. There are alternate ways to move the weaning process ahead that don't involve anything that tastes yucky. Mammi mentioned communication and negotiation, and I couldn't agree more that these are the 2 most useful strategies. For example, if the child wants to nurse you say "Not now, we'll nurse when the clock gets to ____ o'clock" or "We will nurse when we get home" or "We will nurse when the sun is up, now it's time for sleep". Time limits are also very useful. You can say things like "You can nurse until I count to 10" or "You can nurse until I finish singing this song." As time goes on, you make the countdown faster and the lullabies shorter. Another mom here mentioned putting band-aids over her nipples and telling her child that she couldn't nurse because she was hurting, and her child respected that. With an older child, you can have a weaning party- the child picks the date and the celebration, and once the party takes place, you wean- and anytime the child asks to nurse (which he probably won't), you remind him that he already had the party.
You mentioned that you feel it's "already late" for your child to be not yet weaned, and I just wanted to point out that it's very, very normal for a child to nurse until later in childhood, particularly at bedtime when the association between nursing and going to bed is so strong. Many kids don't wean until 4 or 5. And if you are patient enough, all children eventually self-wean. So please don't feel like you are alone in nursing an older child!
Good luck with the process, mama. I know it's very hard and very emotional, especially when one member of the nursing pair is ready and the other is not.
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