Re: In need of some advice and encouragement
We all have those "I want my life back!" moments. Even the moms who seem most contented- the ones who seem like natural-born mommies, completely devoted to their children's every hiccup, happy even when covered in puke- even those women have days when they want to throw up their hands and scream "I quit! You can take this whole whole mommy thing and SHOVE IT!"
As the others have said, this is a short moment in the life of your family and someday you'll look back on it and you'll remember that it was hard, but you'll also be glad you gave it your all.
With a 7 month old baby, a 5 year-old, and a full-time job, I am surprised you even have the bandwidth to THINK about sex, let alone to do it. The dryness from breastfeeding and the low libido will pass eventually, I promise. Most moms find that both lubrication and libido are back in full swing once their periods return, and usually well before then. Until then, lube, a glass of wine, and patience are your best friends.
I'm not surprised that your 5 year-old is sad/emotional/cranky about how you're not "there" the same way that dad is. I am sure that the sadness strikes hardest in the evenings, when you walk through the door... I know my kids can be happy, playful, affectionate, and laughing all day long, but right around the time their dad gets home from work they turn into cranky, tearful, demanding little monsters. It's not about him- it's just that their little clocks have wound down. They're hungry, they're tired, they're overstimulated. And it manifests as an intense need for attention just when the adults in the house could really use a break!
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"