Re: Help with 4 month old nursing change
I would let her set the pattern. It is normal for nursing time to decrease, they get much more efficient at nursing and some babes can actually get a whole feeding in 5-10 minutes. I WOULD NOT limit the frequency of nursing in order to get her to nurse more at a time. I think that has the potential to harm your supply and throw off her ability to recognize her own hunger cues. Not to mention, bring you down below the recommended # of daily nursings (which is really just a guideline) of 8-12 per day. Even if you did have a supply issue (which to be honest I don't see any indication of from what you've written here), nursing more frequently would be the best way to remedy it.
Why do you think you don't make enough for her to get a full feeding from one side? Many babies only nurse on one side per feeding. It's a good idea to offer the other side, but if she refuses it isn't cause for concern. Just try to remember to start on that side at the next feeding.
Overall, I think it would benefit you to try and relax. I understand you're worried because of the issues you had nursing your other child, but every child is different and, to me, it doesn't sound like you have any cause for concern with this one. Just try it for a few days- set the pump aside, follow her lead, feed her when she's hungry and let her stop when she indicates she's done. Offer the breast more often if you want to, but if she doesn't want to eat, don't worry. Count diapers (4-5 wets per day indicate she's getting enough) and see how it goes.
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