My son was born March 22 and I started breastfeeding him immediately at the hospital. I experienced what I assumed were normal pains and problems feeding. I went to the LC at my ped's office a few times for help and all I was told was the latch "looks great" but it felt awful and I knew something was wrong. I kept telling my husband if this is what it felt like for every woman then the human race would have never survived! I tried to stick with it but after 2 weeks of crying through every feeding (me, not him) and more wounds than I could bear, I decided to go to exclusively pumping to let myself heal. It had gotten to the point where milk couldn't be expressed because there were so many wounds blocking my ducts. I had two bouts of mastitis back to back and spend HOURS pumping trying to unclog nearly every duct.
After 6 weeks of healing, I was finally ready to try to put him back to breast. I felt like I was missing out on that connection with him and I was sick of spending hours at the pump and washing dishes. I went to the LC at my ped's office and she took a look at his mouth to see what was causing the initial issues. He has a very short frenulum toward the back and a high palette. He's not tongue tied but apparently this could still cause some significant issues. We tried to get him to latch but he falls off and has to relatch constantly so we decided to use a shield to try to save me some pain.
It seemed to be working well but when I went to his 2 month visit, he was not gaining weight. He hasn't lost any, but he's not gaining. So now I've been told to breastfeed AND pump to make sure he's getting enough. He's regressed to the point where he pulls back and falls off more than he eats and he's even fussy with his bottles now, which was never the case before. I am feeling lost and worried. I wanted so badly to do this for my baby but feeding has become more than just a chore, but a dreaded ritual.
My LC tells me to try to pump more to get my supply up because he may be frustrated that the flow isn't fast enough for him. I can't tell how much he eats but he only has a good latch for about 5-10 minutes tops and I know he can't be getting what he needs in that short time. He won't nurse on more than one side and when I bottle him after to make sure he's getting enough he reluctantly takes another 2-3 oz.
I don't know when enough is enough and to just call it quits. Some insight would be appreciated!