Re: donated breastmilk, to use or not?
These are the LLL guidelines for discussing milk sharing arrangements: http://www.llli.org/release/milksharing.html
Basically, milk sharing arrangements are as old as the human species, and plenty of moms and babies have benefitted from them. But there are some health risks associated with milk sharing, so before a mom accepts donor milk she needs to know the donor mom's health status, and/or to have a plan for sterilizing the milk. In particular, she should know that the donor mom is negative for HIV, active tuberculosis, brucellosis (rare, probably only a problem if the woman is a large animal vet, a rancher, or works in the meat packing industry!), and that the mom is not a drug user. Sterilizing using heat does destroy some of the beneficial qualities of human milk, but sterilized milk is still far superior to formula.
Allergies are not a concern with a baby who is not known to be allergic. Honestly, using formula for a baby who has a tendency towards allergy- that's probably a far bigger risk than using donor milk, in terms of the baby's overall risk of developing allergies.
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