New mommy of a 9 week old baby boy here.
I basically need just some encouragement and reassurance that I am not screwing things up.
He was born at 37 weeks because I got ill during last weeks of pregnancy with cholestasis and high blood pressure. I was induced because it was no longer safe for either of us to continue pregnancy. He weighed 2520g at birth (lowest weight 2310g, back to birth weight on day 10). A week ago his weight was 4210g. (We are living in the Netherlands, hence weight in grams.) As far as weight gain goes I cannot complain.
What I would like to know is, how often should he feed? I feed on demand. From the beginning we had to wake him up every 3h unless he wanted to eat earlier, now he usually eats every 2.5h, sometimes he lasts for 3h. During the night he can sleep up to 5h in one go but that happens maybe twice a week. We usually feed 9 to 10 times a day.
What I am having issues with is adjusting my expectations because for some reason I was led to believe that he will starting to feed less frequently after 6 weeks....that for some reason he will get more efficient which is not really the case. I am slowly dealing with it but it's still pretty hard on me. Mostly cause I have a feeling that I am only staying at home and barely do any housework... :/
We do take walks but I do miss just going out and not being worried when he might get hungry.
He also spits up a ton. It's after every feeding but we were told not to worry as long as he's gaining weight and meeting milestones. He also doesn't seem in pain and it doesn't seem to phase him at all... But it drives me bonkers that I need to change his clothes five times a day and do laundry very often. Again, do I just need to simply adjust my expectations and wait it out? I don't mind breast feeding in public but he just makes too big of a mess and often I need to change my clothes too.. :/
I feel like I have graduated on the matter in the last few weeks. Last week was very hard on both of us though. On Monday he went through a growth spurt, he wanted to feed every hour. As a consequence my boobs got super hard and I got a bit scared that I will get plugged ducts. He also had issues latching and his poop got extremely watery and was greenish at times. That got me even more worried so I tried nursing him on one side for several feelings and then I did that again for the other side. Today, a week later, things are slowly going back to normal again. His poop improved but my letdown is still very strong. He hates nursing 'uphill' or sitting up so I take him off whenever i see him fussing which he also hates so I spend a lot of time calming him and re-latching. His latch is very good but when he's angry he just gulps for the nipple which means he takes a lot of air in... And that means he's gassy/burpy and uncomfortable later.
Any suggestions what more can I do?
One last thing (and then I promise I am done for now!). My baby's hunger cues are veeeery subtle so he can go from 'eh eh' and 'searching' to crying within 30seconds. Am I missing something here or are some babies just like that?
Makes me feel guilty for letting him cry in hunger when I know that's one of the last signs that he's hungry.
Please, I just need to know I am not screwing things up and that things do get better... :/