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    Default Nursing Pregnancy and Miscarriage

    Hi y'all...

    So last week I found out that I was pregnant with our second child. Today I miscarried. It's not the first time, so I am actually doing ok. Don't get me wrong, it is awful and heartbreaking, but it is much more bearable to deal with when I have a beautiful 17 month old to chase after and love on all day.

    But today, the doctor I saw said something that really upset me. She said, "If you get pregnant again, and miscarry again, you might want to consider that your body can't handle the hormonal changes coupled with nursing and pregnancy."

    That's a hard thought to swallow. I mean, if that is what is in the cards for us, so be it. But it won't be easy to accept because my husband and I would love to have another baby sooner than that. She may not wean herself for another couple of years.

    I guess my questions are...Who can relate? Who has been through this and what was the outcome? Who has thoughts on nursing and miscarriage? Should I start seeing an acupuncturist?

    And just a side note, I really enjoy telling the world that I am pregnant even in the early, early weeks because it saddens me that miscarriage can sometimes be such a hush hush topic. It's so common and I wish more of us would be open about it. I just can't keep pregnancy a secret.

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    Default Re: Nursing Pregnancy and Miscarriage

    I'm so sorry about the miscarriage, mama. And doubly sorry that your doc's tossed-off statement landed on you so hard.

    It's rare that women need to wean in order to become or stay pregnant. Instead of taking the doc's comment to heart, I'd see a different practitioner and see if fresh eyes see a little farther. Your doc took the very easy way out by insiuating that breastfeeding was to blame for the miscarriages you have suffered. But if you weren't breastfeeding, the doc would probably look into this a little deeper. So I'd get some basic bloodwork done. Make sure your thryoid hormone levels are in the normal range. See if your progesterone is normal. And if you're not charting, I would start doing so! A lot of fertility issues, and other health issues, can be picked up on by charting.
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    so sorry for your loss, and i agree about not keeping miscarriages hush-hush.

    mommal's right on, as usual, and i'd also want to know if you had miscarriages before your DD or if they're only happening afterwards/while nursing. i know that you are in an emotional/hormonal state and your doc's comment was hurtful, but i actually think she's being a lot more reasonable about it than most docs. i mean, she isn't even suggesting that it's a problem NOW, just that if you have 3 in a row miscarriages while nursing, you might want to think about it. i think that's reasonable -in combination with thinking about all the other more common reasons why you might be miscarrying, as mommal suggested. being pregnant and nursing myself right now - it IS hard, and it IS a big demand on one's body.
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    I can certainly relate to the experience of a doctor saying something insensitive that is based on assumptions rather than facts after suffering a miscarriage. In my case, my OB said "well at your age, eggs are usually just not viable." I knew it was ridiculous as at the time my oldest was only 20 months old, and of course I went on to have more children, the next one born exactly a year after I miscarried with no fertility treatments of any kind. But it still hurt. What infuriated me in particular was that I had not asked my doctor "why?" I knew that first trimester miscarriages are very common and are due to any number of factors. So this opinion from my doctor-again, which was completely incorrect-was merely idle speculation at my expense.

    By the way I was nursing my oldest at the time of the miscarriage and nursed though my subsequent pregnancy and tandem nursed my two boys. I understand very well your feelings of comfort from your toddler and your nursing relationship.

    As far as I am aware, there is no evidence linking nursing to early pregnancy loss. It can be harder to get pregnant in the first place, of course. Next time, there would be no harm in having your hormone levels checked to see if they are at normal levels for early pregnancy or not. Was that done before and after the loss of this baby?

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