My 9 and a half month old has been refusing to breastfeed. It’s now exactly a week since her last feed. I think it may be because I gave her a fright yelping when she bit me hard.
Before this she was usually feeding 5 times a day and seemed to love her feeds. We’ve never been able to persuade her to drink much water.
I have been offering her feeds many times a day since then. I’ve tried catching her when she’s sleepy and when she’s actually asleep (if she’s half awake she starts sucking her fingers and cries if I try to swap my nipple in, and when she seems properly asleep she turns her head away my nipple touches her!) lots of skin to skin time, carrying her in a sling, dancing with her, baths together, trying to feed her while distracting her with bubbles, expressing milk on her fingers while she’s sucking them, even took up someone’s suggestion to put yoghurt (which she loves) on my nipple. She managed to scrape most of it off with her teeth while touching my nipple as little as possible.
I have been giving her expressed breastmilk from a sippy cup (tried a normal cup but she spilled so much). I was able to express quite a bit the first day but since then have been struggling, I have got less than 200mls total a couple of days. She drinks all the expressed milk so it’s obviously not a taste issue. She doesn’t drink a lot of water so her total fluids some days add up to only about 250mls.
Today we tried only offering her water as some people suggested that she might be more likely to take the breast if she wasn’t getting milk any other way. Still no interest in breastfeeding and she only drank 130mls of water.
I’m really tired, stressed and upset by this, and worried about her getting dehydrated. I don't think she is trying to wean because she seems unhappy about the situation. She cries her "feed me" cry and occasionally she'll even open her mouth like she is about to start feeding but then at the last second she turns away and cries.