Re: Need help ASAP! please
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby!
I am so sorry your entry into motherhood was so rough. But there's definitely still reason to think that you can get things back on track.
The first rule of breastfeeding is to feed the baby. If that means bottles and formula right now, that's okay. You do what you have to do!
It sounds like you've gone 9 days with no nursing and only 2 pumping attempts, is that right? If so, the 2 things you want to do right now are:
1. Attempt to get the baby to latch on as often as possible, and
2. Pump frequently to make up for the stimulation your baby isn't giving you.
Non-latching babies can be very difficult. The following link explains all the ways you can gently encourage a baby to nurse: http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/child/back-to-breast/. The instant reward and skin-to-skin techniques are supposed to be especially helpful. Hands-on help from a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC, is also an excellent step to take at this point! Sometimes all it takes is better positioning. You also might want to try the shield- they can be good for babies who are used to bottles.
While you are hopefully getting nursing figured out, you want to work on building supply using the pump. I suggest getting a hospital-grade pump with correctly sized shields (the LC can help you with this) or at least a very good double electric pump (think Medela Pump in Style or Hygeia Enjoye). And you want to use it all the time. A newborn baby typically nurses at least 10-12 times a day, and that frequent and intense stimulation is what brings your milk in and builds your supply. Ideally, you'd pump 10-12 times a day while the baby isn't nursing, but don't feel like you absolutely must meet that ideal standard. Any pumping you do is good. Mre is better, but even if you only pumped a couple of times a day it would be better than nothing.
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