My son is almost 4 weeks old and we've been having problems from the start. I wasn't able to BF within the first hour of birth because of medications I was given, and I had been up for almost 48 hours prior to going into labor so I was pretty out of it by that point. He slept for almost the first 24 hours and it wasn't until pretty late in the day that a nurse finally told me that I should have been trying to nurse him every 2 hours to help bring my milk in. He was never able to latch on his own in the hospital so they gave me a nipple shield which I thought was a lifesaver and now I am regretting how long I used it (about a week and a half non stop). I've heard that it could have something to do with my low supply because the nipple doesn't get proper stimulation?
Well anyways I finally was able to wean him off the shield and haven't used it in about a week or so but he clamps down and it hurts really bad. Since birth he never really seemed satisfied so I nursed him 24/7 even for 5 hours straight 3 different times. He was STILL hungry. I went to a LC at my WIC office (she is an IBCLC but I can tell that her working at WIC doesn't give us the proper amount of time needed since she has so many appts. everyday) and thought his latch looked fine, thought the pain I was describing was normal (said it does take some getting used to), and overall thought everything was good until she weighed him and I fed him and she weighed him again. He had only taken 15 mLs in almost an hour! That week she sent me home with a pump (Medela Lactina Plus) and told me to do breast compressions while feeding him and if I had to give him a bottle since he was basically starving. She also told me not to let feedings go past 30-45 minutes(???) and to pump for 15 minutes after feeding 8x a day.
After that we got into a routine of me nursing him for 45 minutes to an hour (I couldn't bear cutting it down to 30 and I really wanted him to be satisfied with my milk) and him still screaming his head off every time so while I pumped my boyfriend would give him a bottle of formula because I wasn't able to pump much at first. We went back to see the LC a week later and weigh/feed/weigh and this time he only took 20 mLs. His latch was still bad, he was still clamping down and now he was just not interested in sucking possibly because of the bottle making it so easy for him. She sent us home with the same instructions, pump 8x a day but also told me to take Fenugreek and eat healthier. Also, she told me to not let him nurse more than 20-30 minutes because I needed to keep my sanity (WHAT?! my baby needs to EAT!)
We were in the same routine (feed 45-1 hour, and give 2 ounce bottle of formula and occasionally BM if I was able to pump enough) for the next week until we went in Wednesday and I told her I was really frustrated with the whole situation. ESPECIALLY his latch. We finally tried working on that but baby was just getting way too mad (he hates being messed with and she was trying to open his mouth wider) and that was causing him to clamp down even harder! But at this appt. he was able to take 30 mLs so there was SOME progress! I told her I thought his latch was getting worse because of the bottle use so she gave me a tube thing to put in a bottle of formula or BM so he can learn to keep sucking at the breast. That's where we are now and his latch isn't improving but at least we're not giving him bottles anymore.
I guess I'm just wanting to know if anyone has ever been in a similar situation and was able to exclusively breast feed because the LC told me that I might not ever be able to. I feel like a lot of her advice kinda goes against what everyone on here has been saying. Do you think his latch will just improve over time like she seems to think? He definitely creases my nipples to the point where they're white on the ends after a feeding. And how can I pump enough to only feed him BM? I admit it's hard to do the 8x a day because I'm living with other people but I never go below 6. I get around 5-6 ounces a day and that's not even close to enough. Please help, any info or even just support would be awesome. I'm constantly getting told to just quit and I really want this to work out someday!!
SO SORRY for the super long post but I'm so frustrated!!! I need help!