My third son is 2 months old - I breastfed my previous two sons till they each were 2 years old. With this last one - he was in the NICU for 4 days for very high Biliubin count. I pumped and they fed him my breast milk via bottles. When we got home, his latch was awful. He was also an inefficient feeder and would cry even after an hour of feeding.
I saw various lactation consultants - ruled out thrush, saw ENT and ruled out any ties, and received several sessions of Cranio-Sacral therapy. I would breastfeed and pump and bottle feed a few times a day to relieve my incredibly sore nipples as well as ensure that he was getting the oz. he needed. I rented a scale and kept track of his before and after weights - sometimes like in the AM when I had most of my milk, he would get a good supply, appx 3-6 oz after both sides. But sometimes he would feed on both sides for an hour and only get 1 oz. Needing 30 oz/ day and sleeping through the night, he would need to get all 30 oz in the 12 hours he is up durinng the day -which would mean at every 2 hours, he would need 5 oz/ hour and I would never get out of the chair! I also have a 2 year old and an 8 year old - so that was impossible.
My biggest problems were:
1) Him not getting enough from my breasts and getting mastitis in each one - two weeks apart.
2) My nipples were EXTREMELY painful and sore, and it was pure torture putting my breasts in his mouth (use the sandwich method bc my breasts are large) VERY severe white compression ridges and scabs and Blebs and Mastitis etc etc etc.
I have now switched to exclusively pumpling since Friday - so going on 3 days now - it breaks my heart to not be able to hold and breast feed him as I did with my other two. Pumping this often is a whole other type of pain. I pump every 2 hours now - on averaage, only get appx 1-2 oz per side after 20-25 min of pumping (mid- night and morning I will get 3 on each side). Luckily I have a freezer storage so when I dont pump enough, I can defrost some. H eis eating appx 35 oz and I pumped appx 35 one of the days.
This will however run out eventually, and I am worried I wont have enough to satisfy him. Now I have been pumping. You also become a slave to the pump - cant leave the house for long periods of time. The pain is still there - not as severe as the terrible latch - but strange pulling sensations in my breasts every once in a while (Medela Pump in style advanced) and keeps my nipples sore. Not to mention how strenuous/ draining it is - setting up, cold plastic pump vs. warm baby body, washing bottles/ flanges/ containers all day long in boiling hot water, etc. etc. I dont know how long I will last doing this.
SO what I guess I am asking here is will a latch issue ever resolve itself as baby's face forms ( my son has a recessed chin and a high palette but I think the main issue was being separated at birth and his learning how to suck from a bottle vs breast and my continual bottle feeds continuing to confuse him). I tried EBF'indg for 2 weeks and wanted to DIE from the pain - went from this to epping just a few days ago.
So - I may just switch to formula - I feel SOO sorry for my little one, and like I have failed him. I am just SOOO exhausted now and have tolerated pain for WAY too long. Why cant anyone tell me if this will fix itself and to keep going? If I were a LC for 20+ years I am sure I would know the answer - seems no one wants to tell me the truth and Im sick of the run around and feel TOTALLY LOST