I think I just need to reassurance of some other like minded parents. Let me start by saying that I don't know what is wrong with me. DD was a TERRIBLE sleeper (she didn't STTN until she was 2.5). We gave up on the crib before she was 1 year old and she slept with DH and/or I until that point. Now at almost 4 she's a really great sleeper but we never "trained" her. So it's not like dealing with a child who sleep poorly is new territory.
So here I am dealing with the s*itty sleep of DS who is 10 months and I find myself back in the same old habits I had with DD. I am reading everything I can find online trying to fix his problem. He was a pretty great sleeper up until 7-8 months. He'd start the night in his crib and then I'd bring him into bed with me upon his first waking. He was going 5-6 hours per night pretty consistently.
At the 7-8 month mark things totally fell apart. He refuses to sleep in his crib for naps or night and wakes for both at the 30 minute mark. However if I hold him he'll sleep much better. I'm fine with this some nights but there are things I'd like to do ing the evening that I can't hold him for. As well, DH works shift so I am often alone managing bedtime which is difficult when I can't put DS down.
I really don't know what to do. I have read that his waking like this indicates he's overtired and can't put himself to sleep. I have been reading about mild forms of sleep training but not sure I could go through with it. On the other hand I am getting angry and resentful and not having a few minutes to myself in the evening.
I would really appreciate any thoughts or insight. I am feeling pretty conflicted on sleep training at the moment.