Re: When to call it quits
This is such a difficult question because the answer is different for every mama-baby pair. There's no equation that can correctly balance the benefits of breastfeeding, the risks of formula, and the happiness of the mom.
Originally Posted by @llli*madchen66
A lot of people say that you get "all" the benefits of breastfeeding if you do it for 2 weeks. Or 6 weeks. Or 3 months, or a year, or 2 years. The truth is that the is no point at which breastfeeding maxes out its beneficial effects. The longer you nurse, the better it is for the baby's health and the better it is for your health. But you also don't have to feel that stopping breastfeeding is a tragedy, if you truly feel that you are done. You've made it to 3 months and that's terrific!
It sounds like you've never had a good rapport with your doctors over the pain you're experiencing. Have you seen a LC, preferably an IBCLC? Is switching doctors a possibility for you?
And can you tell us more about what you're experiencing? Large gashes make me think that there's a latch problem, in addition to or perhaps instead of thrush. And latch issues usually get better with time, as the baby grows! I know because I was in similar shoes 7 years ago, with my first baby- I had severe pain, large gashes on my nipples, and I really wasn't sure I could continue to nurse. But at around 5 months everything changed- my nipples healed, and breastfeeding actually became enjoyable, and I went on to nurse that baby until age 3. I've never regretted it, even though I swear that I thought it would drive me absolutely nuts when I was going through it.
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