This is going to be a bit long, so please bear with me
The first months with my DS (born end of Jan) were challenging, oversupply and OAL (comfort nursing turned into fussing, pulling off and screaming, wanting the breast repeat..). . LO refused to sleep at all unless mom or dad was holding him (standing and bouncing - not sitting down or else!!) and even then we were lucky to get a half hour or so of him sleeping this way. He would be exhausted, but would fight sleep to the point where even getting him to nurse was a fight (he would be so tired he would have trouble latching and would get impatient for the milk to come). We nurse on demand and the boob is the first thing I would offer constantly. After learning about oversupply and oal (thank you ladies!) Lo and I are now BF better, but he still fights going to sleep and will spend a couple of days exhausted, miserable and awake - then crash and sleep for a day where I have to wake him up just to feed him... Anyone else here experienced something like this??? Any advice?
On top of this I have been fighting back pain since the birth (does anyone know if back labour can cause something like this? I have always been careful with my back and core strength...) And although I've tried baby wearing - I physically can't get anything done around the house while wearing him. 1. He won't let me stop moving - he will grump, cry and finaly scream and 2. the bending, twisting etc hurts... I am working on the back issue, but it will take time.
Soooo, when I got my period back (was not impressed) and we had another full couple days of lo fighting sleep, I finally pulled out the soother and bliss! He went to sleep!!!!!!!! I take the soother out once he is asleep (just feel like he wouldn't wake up when he was hungry). And once asleep he stays asleep for an hour or two! I had not wanted to use a soother, but I am realistic in that this is a tool that right now is helping too much to not use. How do you wean a baby from the soother? I would like to do so when he starts teething - my first son spat his out when his first tooth came in and never wanted it back... Is there any advice for how to limit the use of the soother, especially with DH and extended family? Am I right to take it out when he's asleep or does it make a difference? I haven't done any research on soothers, just didn't want to use it... cause I wanted him to use the boob. sigh. I have been working to make it easier for him to comfort nurse, and sometimes its successful and sometimes not. I've tried just about everything I could find in the forums. Funnily enough just getting my period seems to have helped with the oversupply and he will comfort nurse more - just until he is going to sleep and then he will get upset (that he was falling asleep) and wake himself up.
LO's weight gain is awesome with tons of poopy/wet diapers - I think this is just a personality thing and that he will always be a light sleeper. We knew he would want to be with mamma 24/7, but weren't prepared for the sleep fighting or that I would have such a hard time with my back...
Lots of questions, and even just writing it all out helps my poor tired brain put things together. I am exhausted, my house is a wreck and I just need.. to tired to even figure that out. Thanks for listening and for any words of wisdom.