Have you tried Dr Jay Gordon's method to get a toddler to sleep longer? I'm trying it but boy, our first night was tough. I feel unsure if it is going to work and I'm wondering if I should leave it for later.
My daughter is 18 mo and still wakes 7 times/night, sometimes more.
Yesterday I started Jay Gordon's method. Since she still pees in the potty once during the night, I didn't go for the full 7 hours of sleep but just 5 hours, from 11 PM to 4 AM. In the first night of this method you still nurse the toddler when she wakes, but not all the way back to sleep.
Well she went to bed late, around 11, and woke for the first time at 2:40. When she was almost back to sleep I removed my nipple from her mouth and she started fussing and asking for "na-na". I tried to calm her with back rub and whispered to go to sleep (she understands the word sleep) but she just cried harder for "na na". It escalated into screaming, and she was not going back to sleep just fighting me as I tried to walk around with her, bounce her, rock her, all she did was scream and try to get under my shirt. By 4:00 AM she had stopped the full-on screaming but was awake and crying intermittently. We listened to some quiet music, she was still asking for na-na and crying....finally at 5:00 AM she fell asleep lying on the bed while I rubbed her back. So it took 2 h 20 min.
So now of course we were beyond our 4 AM time period. She woke up two or three more times to nurse, and I nursed her all the way back to sleep. We both slept in until 11:00 AM.
So now, it's 12:50, a time she'd normally be napping, and she's up playing with her gramma, although she is a bit cranky. I'm really tired and my head feels about to explode, even though I did get quite a bit of sleep if you add it all up.
Is it supposed to be this hard? Have I picked the wrong time to do this? Should I have woken her at her normal time in the morning (which I will have to do tomorrow as we have plans in the morning)? Should I push through a few more nights of this? I don't think she is having teething pain at the moment, but then sometimes its hard to tell.
Did you have success with this method?
I did not really feel bad about denying her the na-nas last night while she was screaming, after all they are my na-nas, and I can decide who gets to suck on them and when. But to go on for more than an hour!!! She's never cried that long before, ever, and I just couldn't seem to calm her.
I know some people get their husbands involved - that is not an option for me. We will end up divorced if I try to get him to do this. Also, there have been a few other occasions I refused to let her nurse and my husband was also unable to calm her. He would just undermine my decision bringing her to me saying "she's choking!" as if it's my fault she cries so hard she gags because she wants na-na.
I hope one of you ladies might be able to give me some perspective. Should I keep trying this method? Will it really work?
Background - Why I want to reduce night nursings: Last week I had horrible flu, conjunctivitis and coughing and I was only getting about 2-3 h of sleep per night, because if I eventually did get to sleep DD would just wake me to nurse and I couldn't get back to sleep again. It mutated into some kind of insomnia and we were supposed to fly home from my parents' house on Sunday, very stressful, long story short we postponed our travel for two weeks, but I am determined to resolve our night-wakings before July because this is just not tenable for me in the long-term any more. In July we will start extended camping trips for work, and nursing at night really keeps me up in the tent. Last year it was horrible but I didn't have the stamina to deal with the night-wakings at that time and I felt my daughter was still very young. I am ready to reduce the night-wakings and I guess this is a good time for me as I don't have a strict work schedule or major deadlines at the moment. Is it the wrong time for my daughter?