Hi; I'm mom to two wonderful little girls; a 14 mo old strong-willed younger one and a 2.5 year old easy going sister.
The 14 mo old is breastfed and she and I cosleep in her room. However, since I work outside the home, she mostly just nurses at night. She wakes 4-7 times a night to nurse. If she could, she would probably sleep all night with the boob in her mouth, but since I can't sleep like that, she will settle for being nursed back to sleep. She is a fairly poor napper and sleeper, and the slightest thing (colds, teething, which seems constant) disturb her sleep. (meaning I don't get much sleep at all...)
I'm exhausted, especially if she has a cold/sick or is teething, because then she wakes more like 7 times a night, and often takes a long time to fall back to sleep. As a result, I don't function well at work and have less patience than I would like for the 2.5 year old (or for DH).
When she is well and "only" gets up 4 times I night, I can manage (i.e. have gotten used to that type of interrupted sleep).
Whenever she does not sleep well I get so exhausted that I think about night weaning.
My first concern is that she might wean completely - which I don't want.
Plus, when I'm not on the brink of exhaustion, I just love the cuddling at night ... We started night weaning once or twice but sleeping in my own bed (dad was with her) I missed her so much I gave up after 1-2 nights.
Third, given that she is quite tenacious, she will cry for at least 45 min if she does not get mom/the boob, even though dad is there to comfort her. Which is extremely hard for me to listen to, as I don't believe in CIO. And when I hear her cry, I can't sleep anyways, even in my own bed.
Anywhere been there? What should I do? Part of me wants/needs the sleep and thinks she would be better off if she slept better. The other part of me would miss the night cuddles terribly. I don't think she would understand "when the sun comes up" just yet - her language skills are not there yet.
Would it be easier to night wean if I wait for another few months? (say 18 mo old)? TIA