Help!! This is my second child... I nursed my daughter for 14 months... but I still feel like such a novice when it comes to nursing my son. He has not nursed as well as my daughter. He is 5 weeks old and the last several evenings, he goes through a couple hours when he acts hungry (fussing, sucking fingers, mouthing around) but when I attempt to feed him, he just freaks out. He starts screaming, arching his back, etc. Sometimes, he will latch on for 30 seconds or so but then he pulls back and screams. Other times, he refuses to latch and when I hold him to my breast, he simply won't close his mouth. When he is latched on, I can hear him swallowing and I sometimes see some milk so I know the problem is not that I am "empty." I also don't seem to have a huge oversupply as far as I can tell. My breasts only leak when I am really engorged and have only occassionally squirt milk (with my daughter... not this time). When he comes off during a feeding, only a drop or two of milk comes out.
When I stop attempting to feed him, he will settle down for a little while and then the whole cycle repeats itself. I feel like we can't find any position that is comfortable for him... I've tried them all! During most of the day, he nurses fine but sometimes, he gets into this funk that I've described. Also, during the night, he will nurse fine if I just stay in the bed with him but once we get up for a diaper change, the screaming starts again. The last two nights, I have been up for almost 2 hours trying to get him back to sleep again. He won't soothe with nursing. He does soothe almost immediately when I offer him a pacifier. However, after a little while, that no longer satisfies him.
The screaming is a thousand times more stressful because we have a very small house and no matter where I am in the house, his toddler sister can hear his screams. He has woken her up on multiple occassions so I am always really stressed that his screams will wake her and try everything to get him to be quiet.
Any advice as to what I am dealing with here? Oversupply? Nipple confusion? Colic? Am I offering him the breast too much or should I continue to offer periodically even though it makes him upset? Do you think that switching rapidly between the breast and the pacifier is causing an issue? He's never had a bottle. I don't know what to do to stop the screaming episodes and get some sleep! ANY suggestions/encouragement would be appreciated!!