Re: Feel like I am failing at breastfeeding
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby!
Some questions for you:
- When you say that your baby "turned blue", what happened exactly? Is there some sort of underlying health condition which is affecting your baby?
- During your birth, I assume you had IV fluids. Were you on an IV for a prolonged period?
- Was baby born at or around term (38-42 weeks), or was he preterm? And if so, how early was he?
- Is there anything else that was notable about your baby's birth?
- What sort of pump do you have and how often are you using it?
- How does nursing feel? Any problems with pain during or after nursing?
It sounds like your baby is pretty sleepy. Some tricks for waking a dozy newborn:
- Rub the soles of his feet or against the grain of his hair using your hand or a cool damp washrag.
- When it's time to nurse, strip baby down to a single light layer, and keep a fan blowing in the room where you're nursing (but not directly on the baby). A cool baby is often more alert than a warm one.
- Keep the lights dim. New babies often close their eyes in response to bright light.
- Try switch nursing. When baby's suckling slows, and he seems to be dozing off, take him off the breast, burp him or change his diaper, and switch him to the other breast. When suckling slows on the second breast, switch him back to the first, and repeat the process until baby is satisfied or will no longer wake.
Fussiness at the breast is very normal with young babies. It's especially common around the time of a growth spurt- and there's a big one at around 3 weeks- and with babies who get a lot of bottles early on. One thing that can help with bottle-related fussiness is something called the "finish at the breast" technique. Instead of allowing feedings to conclude with the bottle, you nurse, give a supplement, and then put the baby back to the breast for a good long session of comfort nursing. Not only is this good for supply, but it teaches baby to associate the feeling of satiation with the breast rather than the bottle.
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