Re: need advice please, stressed!!
hi mama, congratulations!!
there is a lot going on in your post so i will try to address some of the things.
- many babies settle into a better routine after a 6 week growth spurt. there is also a 3 week growth spurt where they eat all. the. time. so her feeding half an hour after she quit? completely and totally normal. this is not a sign that she didn't get enough last time. it's just because her belly is so tiny and breastmilk digests so quickly. it is absolutely normal for babies this age to eat 10-12 times a day (or more!) and that will not necessarily be spread out evenly every 2 hours.
- this tutorial really helped me learn how to sidelye nursing: http://www.mother-2-mother.com/tut-layingdown.htm
- you say her latch is fine but pretty much everything you describe about it says it's NOT fine. it shouldn't hurt. so this is really somethign to work on, and it sounds like it's time for you to get hands-on help, either from a local LLL leader (who might do a home visit for free, depending on whether she can) or from a IBCLC (who will charge, maybe $100 for a very intense and long appointment) but it's WAYYYYY cheaper than formula
- the pulling and fussing at the breast and the gas sounds like it might be oversupply. but then she should have had a poo or more. so maybe one of the more experienced mamas will pick up on this puzzle.
Nursing, pumping, cloth-diapering, babywearing, working professor mama with the awesomest SAHD ever.