Re: Help with Night Weaning - he's almost 2!
Welcome to the forum, and congratulations on making it to 2 years of nursing!
It is wonderful that you have been so generous regarding night-nursing. Not too many mamas are that giving for that long! If you are ready to night-wean, here are some things to try:
- Tell your LO what is going to happen. At 2, he's old enough to understand a lot! With my kids, I would say "Okay, it's nighttime. You're going to sleep all night long! Mommy is going to sleep all night. And pupples" (what my kids call nursing, ) "is going to sleep all night long. We will nurse again in the morning, when the sun comes up."
- If your LO wakes in the night and wants to nurse, remind him again that it is sleep time and that he can nurse again in the morning. Soon. But not now.
- Keep a sippy cup full of water handy. Night-waking toddlers are sometimes genuinely thirsty.
- Wear restrictive clothing. Easy access to the breast makes a kid more likely to nurse. If he can't get his hands on your goodies, he's less likely to demand a nursing session.
- Remember that crying is not always the worst thing. Enthusiastic night nursers may cry or tantrum when you cut them off. But at this point, nursing is something which needs to be negotiated between mama and toddler. Teaching nursing manners which include "we'll nurse at the appropriate time" is really okay, even if the toddler resists and cries.
- Try to stay consistent. Night-weaning usually happens faster and less painfully when mama sticks to her decision. But do not be afraid to totally change your decision if you decide that your baby isn't ready.
I'm sorry your DH is being such a doofus about weaning. As far as I am concerned, the only ones with a vote about the cut-off date for nursing are a mama and her baby. Daddy doesn't get a vote, because nursing is good for his child and it's not his breasts that are at issue. And you can tell your DH that I said so. "Hey hon, a stranger from the Internet says you're being a doofus!" I'm sure that will be a huge hit.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"