My son turned two last month and I remember last year I was feeling like I was reaching the end of my nursing rope. I was still a little hesitant and I preferred that my son decided when he was done. My mother had told me that when my brothers started walking and getting more independent that they just weaned themselves. My son started walking at 9months and was an active little guy so I thought he would eventually loose interest in nursing. I kept nursing in the hopes that he would do just that before his 2nd birthday... No such luck
He's still nursing. A few months ago I started trying cut back on the number of times he nursed during the day. I don't think I've really made any progress though. My son nurses when he feels like it, he doesn't have any kind of "schedule" like when he was a baby and that's made it hard to gradually cut out one feeding at a time.
This probably hasn't helped any either but for a long time my son had a pacifier (he was jaundice when he was born and the only way we could keep him under the special blue light for any amount of time was if he used a pacifier, which just stuck after that ). I don't remember exactly how long ago he stopped using it but I eventually stopped replacing the ones he lost and then one day he lost the last one and it was gone. He did surprisingly well, BUT he started want to nurse more. And now the only way he'll fall asleep is if he's nursing. And he wakes up all the time (seriously worse than when he was an infant) because he "wants more". During the day he'll tell me that he wants to eat, which is what he calls nursing (if he wants other food/drink he uses the name, juice, water, cracker, etc). I try to distract him and offer other food and drink but it doesn't work and he just ends up screaming that he wants to eat! I feel like a horrible mom when he does that in public, like I'm depriving him If I'm not holding him he tries climbing up to get to me and will either put his hands up my shirt or pull the neck of my shirt down to try to expose my breasts.
I'm just tired, I want to be done nursing. How do I do it without traumatizing my son or feeling like a terrible mother?????