Re: Really need and would appreciate some advice
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby!
I think the heart of your difficulties is this:
4 weeks is such a short time. I know it's hard to believe, because in brand-new-mom time, 4 weeks seems like an eternity. But- speaking as someone with 2 kids under my belt- 4 weeks really is a very, very short time. In the last 4 weeks, your baby has had to get used to so many new things- breathing air, nursing, feeling hungry, feeling full, pooping, having gas, wearing clothing and diapers, wild (from his point of view) fluctuations in light, noise, and temperature... His instincts tell him that the only way to cope with these crazy new experiences is to be on mom all. the. time. Baby's instincts tell him that his ONLY 100% certain source of food, comfort, warmth, love is MOM and her breasts, and his instincts tell him to fight to be in her arms and on her breast as much as possible. As some wise mama here once put it, your baby doesn't know that he doesn't live in caveman times. As far as he knows, the moment mom puts him down he's going to get eaten up by a sabretooth tiger- and he can't let that happen!
Originally Posted by @llli*miles.mum
Your baby's nursing frequency and duration is normal. Yes, some babies will give you predictable intervals between feedings, and will feed 8-12 times a day. But many will not. My kids fed far more often than 10-12 times a day, and the intervals between feedings varied widely. Sometimes they nursed every 1-2 hours, sometimes it was every 20 minutes, and sometimes they'd take these 3-4 hour naps that just made me nervous, because I would keep coming over to check that they were breathing! When it comes to feeding frequency, engage your patience. Again, your baby is brand-new and everything is going to change over the next few weeks/months.
Your baby's weight gain is lovely and his latch sounds good. If you're not sore and baby is gaining sufficient weight, there is no reason to suspect a latch issue. Yes, frequent feedings can indicate a problem with milk transfer, but in your case they do not. Really, I promise!
Fast letdowns and clicking are often associated. When mom's letdown is fast- something which usually happens because she has an abundant or overabundant milk supply- baby struggles to control it. Some babies learn to do so by compressing the nipple (ouch!) and others discover that a quick release of suction will do the job- and that break in suction creates the click. If fast letdowns are causing the baby to become fussy, try nursing in reclined positions. Reclining engages the force of gravity to slow milk flow, making nursing more comfortable for the baby.
Breastfeeding clinics may be for moms with real problems only- but IRL La Leche League meetings can be perfect for moms in your situation, who need reassurance and fellowship from other moms who can say "It's normal, I've been there, it will pass."
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