I have been trying to breastfeed my daughter who is now 3 months old. We have had a very difficult breastfeeding relationship. She didn't latch on following birth, but I did skin to skin and expressed in to her mouth. I wasn't able to wait for her to breastfeed, as she had low blood sugars following birth (I was diabetic) and then became very jaundiced due to a blood group incompatibility. As a result, we ended up having to "forcefeed" her milk for the first two weeks of her life, initially she was syringe fed, then we moved to bottles as syringe feeding was very time consuming and she spat a lot of the milk back out. I have always had a good milk supply, so she has been fed breastmilk exclusively from about 1 week, and only has had around 10 oz of formula in total, most of which was in the first few days of life.
The first time she latched on was on day 9, and has latched on very occassionally ever since. The most she has ever breastfed was at about 5 weeks, when she breastfed for about 24 hours and then stopped again.
We discovered she had a posterior tongue tie and an upper lip tie at 6 weeks, and these were revised at 10 weeks.
Three weeks on and she has not latched on once. Not ONCE since the revision. Her tongue mobility is fantastic, she no longer uses her jaws to clamp down on either the bottle or my finger, and her tongue comes forward over her jaw, so I feel that everything is working fine in her mouth and she should be able to feed.
I have done skin to skin, rebirthing, laid back feeding, biological nurturing... She will get as far as rooting at the breast, and then she becomes frustrated and cries. It is very time consuming to keep trying and trying and trying, and on top of this, pumping regularly so that she does not get any formula. I know from the LLL literature, from Kellymom, from other websites, that babies are programmed to breastfeed, that potentially she CAN learn. But it is soul-destroying to keep trying and as hard as I try, I can't help feel like she is rejecting me every time.
Are there any mums out there who can give me some positive feedback, that have been in similar situations to me, so that I'll keep the faith and keep trying?