I'm so glad I found this forum and I hope someone could give me some advice on feeding my little girl who is 3 weeks old.
Where to start...
I bf from birth and felt it was all going well. Myself and my midwife felt she had a good latch and was feeding well. At her 1 week check up she'd gone from 7lb8 to 7lb6...perfectly fine. I continued with bf and her behaviour became increasingly unsettled and unsatisfied after feeding (looking back I don't think I was feeding her properly as I was misinformed about bf and went by the clock rather than going by her which now I know it's wrong I feel incredibly guilty about).
A few days later she was weighed again to find she was down 20g. The midwife told me to feel her every 3 hours and pump to get my supply up, which I did. A few days later she was weighed again and down another 40g. At this point I was told that if she hadn't put weight on in 3 days we'd have to go back to hospital. Midwife advised topping up with formula. I was v reluctant to do this but felt very backed into a corner with the threat of hospital.
So I started topping up each feed with 1-2oz formula depending on her hunger. I hated this and felt a complete failure. However, she seemed much more content with having breast milk and formula and a few days later was back to her birth weight. I asked midwife's advice on what to do now as I really wanted to get back to breast milk only. Her response was 'you can do whatever you want now her weight is up'.
I started reducing the formula and increasing bf so she now only had two formula top ups a day. Bf felt like it was going much better, she fed about every 1.5. hours and for about 30 mins in total (usually both breasts). I was pleased because she seemed to be satisfied and settled after her feeds. However, she was weighed yesterday and is down another 30g now. I was so upset Midwife didn't really give any advice other than to carry on doing what I'm doing and we'll see how her weight is on Monday. But my health visitor said I shouldn't have reduced the formula and to go back to top ups every feed to get her weight back up.
I now feel at a total loss. DH and my mum are encouraging me to listen to the hv and do the top ups or even switch entirely to formula but I really really want to bf. Doesanybody have any advice or can see where I'm going wrong? I'm willing to try anything right now!
As a side note, she is quite refluxy and will bring a little bit of milk back up after breastfeeding but formula seems to add to this problem and she brings up an awful lot of milk (what looks like her entire feed) so much so that we had to take her to hospital the other day as she'd been so sick. She was checked out and all was fine, they said she was overfeeding on formula and to reduce it down.