So my baby is 12wks old. We have had a rough go of it. I started out breastfeeding but was getting stressed so at 4.5 wks I took a break I only breastfed him when I was up to itwhich was 3-4 times a day and I did not pump for the missed feedings. Then he had formula the rest of his feedings Those 3-4 times I would bf him were mostly in the evenings. He started to rely more on the bottle and by 7 wks he was on almost all formula. At this point he was nursing a few times in the evening but only through the letdown because it was faster and once the letdown was done he wanted the bottle. Well I decided at that point that I could see he was about to be done with Bf all together and I wasnt ready for that so I decided to get my supply back up and get him bf more. I want to only breastfeed him again and do no formula. I know it was not smart to introduce the formula but I did and I cant change that. So at 7 wks we started this process of building my supply back up. This are going great and he is nursing alot now. He nurses before every feeding in the evenings and then gets his bottle afterwards. I am pumping at work and bringing home 8 oz now from my 8hr day at work. So here is where things are complicated.
My baby gets formula during the day at daycare which is what we were doing at home since he was 4.5wks old. Well even then he was having a hard time adjusting to bottles and we finally settled on the Playtex Nursers. He uses them fine at home but the sitter told me yesterday that she needs to get him on more of an eating schedule because he is only eating like 3 oz the whole 8hrs that he is there. And that it is too hard for her to have to feed him every hr and him only eat .5-1oz each time when she has 4 other kids to take care of. She said she has been trying to get him to eat more in a feeding and has tried feed on demand and tried letting him get super hungry to where he is crying so that she knows he is really hungry but she said it didnt make a difference he only wanted like an ounce. I told her I thought maybe he was reverse cycling but she said she has never heard of that. I also told her that he is more of a snacker during the day and he eats like a pig at night. She said she has never had a mom tell her that her baby was a "snacker" and that this cant be good for him and that he is only going to learn to use me as a paci. I told her I didnt know what to do to make him eat more at one time. She said she wants him eating 2-3 oz a feeding. I guess so he will go longer between feedings and free up some of her time for the other kids. She also said that she thinks I have confused him by going back and forth between breast and bottle like I did. I told her I have never taken one day off of bf I just slowed down and he had mostly bottles during that time but was still nursing. She said he acts like he doesnt know what to do with the bottle and doesnt latch well. I told her we werent having really any trouble getting him to take a bottle at home. Sometimes he has trouble but most times he is fine. She also said maybe he doesnt like the formula now since he is having more bm now, but he still takes formula fine at home. I am so confused and upset. Did I mess my baby up? Did I confuse him by going back to bf more now? I am worried that he is not eating enough in a day. I think he is getting about 20-24 oz in a full day. I feel so bad if I have confused him. Should I stop bf and just bottle feed and pump? Is he reverse cycling since he eats the majority of his feeds at night? Is reverse cycling going to hurt him like she thinks it will? I am just so worried and dont know who to go to about these things. Please help! I was so proud of us for going back to bf and he has been nursing so good lately and he is on more bm than formula now and I was trying to get him on all bm and then wanted to be able to only breastfeed in the nights and weekends and do no bottles except at daycare but if he is confused then I dont know if that is a good idea. This jsut makes me want to give up. I have worked so hard and thought I was doing the right and best thing for my baby but it doesnt look like it now.