I've gotten a little help from other Moms from the Adventures in tandem nursing book. I've tried to just let go and let him nurse as much as wants but when I found myself gritting my teeth I knew it was time to cut back. I won't have him give up the morning and bedtime nursing and many days he doesn't nap. The last few days he has cut back on two times a day without much resistance after the first day.I have gotten suggestions from friends for interesting snacks to replace them. I am also trying not to nurse the baby in the spots that he likes.
Honestly it might not be so uncomfortable to me if he could keep his hands off of my breasts while nursing but its like an unconscious reaction and I constantly have to redirect him.