I am tandem nursing my toddler and a 3mo baby. Hr was brain once a day through most of the pregnant because it was so painful for me. I was naïvely surprised when he wanted to nurse often after the baby was born. He now wants to nurse about 5x throughout the day. We have worked on some boundaries as far as how long he nurses each time and sometimes when it it not his 'regular' time to nurse he will accept a snack or cup of milk instead. It also irritates me how insistent he is on touching my breast while he nurses. I feel very sensitive and we try to come up with alternatives.
Sometimes this all leads to a negative experience for both of us. While I have tried to persevere through the baby's early months i am beginning to think it may be better to try to wean because of my negative feelings. If I try to deter him, he will insist and will demand 'mommy milk' until I give in. I try to offer other activities and spend most of my day just playing with him because he won't 'let' me do anything else. I had to shut myself in the bathroom just to post this and feel very trapped by this situation.