It's funny too - our 3 girls are only 40 months apart. So it's not like how we raise them is a faded from memory. All of our family and friends KNOW this is what we do. All of them KNOW how it works with us. For some reason, it doesn't stop the 'advice'. Just ignore them. Your babies are babies for SUCH a short amount of time. Do what you know is right and let the rest wash off like rain.