Re: BFing constantly and not eating solids at 9 months corre
Your LO doesn't turn a year on Sunday- not really. Her corrected age is still only 9 months, since she was 3 months premature. Right? So at this point she is doing exactly what many 9 month-old babies are doing: relying on breastmilk for nutrition and showing relatively little interest in solids. As my pediatrician put it, until 12 months "solids are only for fun with new tastes, textures, and motor skills; breastmilk (or formula) alone meet all of a baby's nutritional needs." And after 12 months, many babies continue to be predominantly breastfed, since it's not like the transition from needing only breastmilk or formula to needing a ton of solids happens overnight. Many babies- including both of mine- remain mostly breastfed until well into their second year.
I am sorry you're getting pressure from the dietitians and therapists. I really do not understand their logic. There's no reason to push cup/bottle use- that's something your LO will come to when she's ready, just like all kids. I know my kids weren't interested in sippy cups until around age 1, and they were term babies. There's nothing special about using a cup or bottle that facilitates motor development or oral development better than breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is the NORMAL way to foster NORMAL oral development- cups and bottles are a second-tier option. And withholding breastfeeding just makes you and baby miserable, and removes a reliable and complete form of nutrition from her diet. It doesn't automatically make a baby eat more solids.
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