Re: Husband wants me to wean 21 mth old
Kudos to you for doing what you feel is right. It is very hard to face criticism from anyone about our parenting choices, but even harder when it is someone we love.
Perhaps your DH needs some validation of his feelings? I know MIL's often need that - they feel threatened by our parenting choices. You might consider reading up on how to handle criticism. Here are some links to get you started. http://www.lalecheleague.org/FAQ/criticism.html and http://www.kellymom.com/bf/criticism.html.
Additionally, here are some links about breastfeeding beyond baby's first birthday.
From the World Health Organization, go to page four of the .pdf file: http://www.who.int/nutrition/publica...tors_guide.pdf
American Academy of Pediatrics: http://www.aap.org/advocacy/releases...astfeeding.htm
American Assoc of Family Physicians Policy Statement: http://www.aafp.org/online/en/home/p...ingpolicy.html
From the US gov't: http://www.4women.gov/breastfeeding/...QandA#how_long
From a mainstream parenting site: http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/tod...feed/8496.html
A judge's ruling on extended nursing: http://www.findarticles.com/p/articl...il/ai_76587460
From about.com: http://experts.about.com/q/Breastfee...astfeeding.htm
More from the AAP: http://pediatrics.aappublications.or.../114/5/S2/1506
Breastfeeding and the law: http://www.findarticles.com/p/articl...66/ai_13396208
Texas A&M University: http://www.tamu.edu/univrel/aggiedai.../012299-8.html
Finally, in some cultures, breastfeeding in general, or breastfeeding an older baby, has some stigma attached to it. Perhaps a review of both your family and DH's family's culture and upbringing might provide some insight. This link seems to provide a good over-view of how breastfeeding is seen in other cultures. It's not a LLL link, but might be helpful in your situation. http://www.leron-line.com/Culture_&_Breastfeeding.htm
You might also want to read the book "How Weaning Happens" by Diane Bengson and "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler" by Norma Jane Bumgardner. Many LLL Groups have these books in their libraries, and some public libraries also have them to borrow, or they can get them for you.
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