Re: So confused! Help!
At this point, her corrected age is 5 weeks. By the time your baby was term, she was probably strong, alert, and proficient at nursing to get all her needs met from breastfeeding alone. Think about it this way: there are plenty of babies who are born early term or late preterm (say 36, 37 weeks) who do just fine with nursing, no supplements required.
I'm really sorry that the nurses made you doubt yourself. Pumping and supplementing with bottles is a medical intervention that should be undertaken only after consultation with a pediatrician and a lactation consultant, not something nurses should simply suggest because "everyone knows" that preterm babies aren't strong enough to nurse.
At this point, I would simply nurse, avoid the bottles, watch diaper output, and most of all stop expecting to be bursting with milk all the time. As Djs.mom said, once supply and demand match well, you're not going to feel engorged or even full unless baby skips a feeding, perhaps several feedings, in a row. And you're unlikely to leak more than sporadically.
How does nursing feel, and how often does the baby nurse?
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