Hello! I'm new here. I found this forum while googling "how to wean a two year old." So naturally, I am wondering what worked for some of you out there. I am not a single mom, but I also can't rely on my husband to help with the process too much. His schedule is so varying I can't rely on him being home at certain times to create a routine. Also, he is so frustrated I'm still breastfeeding him it just creates fight after fight whenever I try to discuss ways to wean. I would kind of like to do this by myself. I work seasonally at a family business that allows me to take him to work with me, so he has breastfed on demand for his whole two years. He doesn't really have a set bedtime. He has a very child led schedule. We have started trying to implement a bedtime routine for the past week, to get his body to "know" it's time for bed, but it hasn't worked too well. But then again, it's only been about a week. He does cosleep and still nurses during the night. He has had issue gaining weight for the majority of his life, so I was always reluctant to cut out the night time feedings but I feel we have that issue under control now. He's also getting his two year molars so I'm not sure if that will affect this process, but our dentist said he probably wouldn't have all four until the summer and I don't want to wait that long to start. Because I work seasonally (with the business picking up in the spring) I would like to be able to get him to take a nap without nursing him.
I've read conflicting things for whether is better to focus on daytime feedings first versus nighttime. Everyone seems to agree to focus on one particular feeding at a time. How long does it usually take to eliminate one feeding? How long after eliminating a feeding do you focus on another? Any advice, links, support would be really appreciated.